While life transitions are inevitable, intimacy is not something we lose forever. It shifts. It adapts. It evolves. It's a skill we can build together with time, care, and practice.
If you've landed on this page, something has probably already shifted in your intimate world. Let's explore it together, gently, and at your own pace.
When Intimacy Feels Distant, Unfamiliar, Muted…
You may have experienced one or more of these turning points in life:
When bodies change…
Pregnancy, post-partum, or early parenthood
Pregnancy loss, infertility treatments
(Peri)menopause, ageing
Sexual dysfunction (premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, etc.)
When relationships change…
The relationship feels monotonous
Breakup, separation, or divorce
Navigating an open relationship or non-monogamy
Discovering or navigating neurodivergence (ADHD, Autism) in yourself or your partner
When life events take up too much space…
Moving to, adjusting to, and dating in a new cultural context
Career changes, intense career demands, or financial instability
Death of a loved one
The weight of the world is seeping into your body and your capacity for intimacy and connection
You don’t need to carry any of this alone - even naming it can be a first step in your journey to rediscovering intimacy and reigniting pleasure.
During or after life transitions, you might notice that…
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Life transitions, loss, or grief have shifted how intimacy feels
Naming your needs, desires, or boundaries feels hard(er)
You long for more connection and pleasure, but don’t know where to begin or feel stuck
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You feel disconnected from your body or from yourself
Emotional and/or physical distance has grown between you and your partner, and you feel like roommates who largely discuss the logistics of running a household
The same conflicts repeat in your relationship, without repair or deeper understanding
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Erotic energy is absent in the relationship
Sex feels like an obligation or monotonous
Life events, such as childbirth and early parenthood, have pushed sex and pleasure into the background
Desires or libido feel mismatched, confusing, or distant
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Dating feels challenging, and/or you feel like you're asking for “too much”
Intimacy doesn’t get prioritized and unspoken resentment has been quietly growing in the relationship
You want to explore open relationships or non-monogamy, while your partner feels unsure
Even if you relate to one or two experiences, that can be enough to begin our work together. I’m here to help you slow down and gently explore what intimacy, connection, and pleasure mean to you.
Curious to know about how I can support your journey in (re)discovering intimacy? Then the next section is for you…
How can I help you in (Re)turning to Intimacy?
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Listening more closely to your body and recognizing emotional signals
Identifying what triggers you, where you feel it in your body, and how it shows up in your relationships
Learning to connect with your inner child with compassion and kindness
Building a sense of safety and trust within yourself
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Getting curious about your needs and core desires
Expressing your needs and desires without self-abandonment
Setting and communicating your boundaries
Accepting and expressing your capacity
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Gaining a deeper understanding of your and your partner’s attachment styles as well as each others’ triggers
Learning how to face disappointment (in yourself and in your partner)
Learning how to repair after conflict and focus on prioritizing intimacy and connection
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Overcoming shame about your body, desires, and sexuality
Exploring pleasure in ways that feel authentic to you (and your partner)
Learning how to pleasure yourself and receive pleasure from your partner
Exploring your turn-ons, sexual fantasies, and finding ways to express them
What my clients often notice after our sessions
A deeper connection to their body, with greater awareness of emotions, bodily sensations, attachment styles, and “triggers”
More ease in naming and expressing needs, boundaries, and capacity without guilt, over-explanation, or feeling like they are “too much”
A growing ability to repair after rupture in relationships, leading to more intimacy and connection between partners
More confidence and less shame in expressing desires and need for pleasure in ways that feel authentic to who they are now
These shifts don’t happen overnight…and they certainly don’t look the same for everyone.
This work isn’t about “fixing” you or offering you one-size-fits-all advice. It’s about creating space to slow down, listen, feel, and relate differently - with yourself and with your partner.
“I learned how to recognise when something felt like "too much" and how to clearly express my needs and boundaries to my partner. ”
AB, 31, Heidelberg, Germany
“If I had to describe the atmosphere of our sessions, it would be intimate…a perfect balance of connection, professionalism, and clarity...”
I, 28, Guarda, Portugal
Work with Pallabi
Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship coaching for individuals and couples who wish to (re)turn to intimacy, connection, and pleasure during or after life transitions.
Coaching with me is collaborative, relational, and tailored to your pace. It’s not a substitute for therapy, mental health care, or medical advice. Using my PACED approach, I work somatically and experientially to hold space for you and gently support you in attuning to your body's wisdom, understanding your attachment patterns and desire for connection, and slowly (re)turning to pleasure and intimacy that feels authentic to who you are now.
What I bring into our sessions
somatic awareness and a trauma-empowered approach that supports self-regulation and deeper intimacy
a sex-positive mindset that helps heal shame around desire and pleasure
a belief that intimacy is a skill that can be learned through awareness and practice
a curious presence that makes room for vulnerability and complexity
15 years of academic expertise in how culture and societal messages shape intimacy, desire, and pleasure
lived experience with intercultural relationships and life transitions that continue to reshape my own relationship to intimacy, desire, and pleasure
Click here to learn more about me.
My PACED approach:
You set the pace … I hold the space
I am a sex-positive, trauma empowered sex, intimacy, & relationship coach trained in the Somatica® method. I combine somatic and experiential practices with talk-based coaching to support individuals and couples in slowing down, getting curious, and rediscovering pleasure and intimacy that feel authentic to the present version of themselves.
This work is guided by my PACED approach - one that honors your body’s wisdom, history, & capacity - alongside my academic expertise and my lived experiences navigating shifts in intimacy.
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I meet you where you are at, without rushing you toward answers or outcomes. We pay attention to what is happening right now in your body, emotions, and relationships, and let that guide our work together.
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We listen closely, not only to your words, but also to what your body and emotions are communicating. Our sessions are tailored to your unique experiences, rather than quick fixes or one-size-fits-all advice.
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We follow what feels safe and workable for you. Nothing is pushed or forced. Curiosity helps us gently explore patterns, needs, and desires without shame, judgement, or pressure.
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Your experiences are met with care, understanding, and vulnerability. I offer a space where all feelings and experiences are welcome and can be spoken about openly.
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Struggles with intimacy, desire, or connection are not personal failures. Together, one of our main goals will be to work to overcome and heal shame, creating more room for self-compassion so you can express your needs and experience intimacy and pleasure in ways that feel authentic to you (and your partner) now.
Ways to Work Together
In these 50-minute online sessions, we slow down and trace how life’s turning points have reshaped your relationship to intimacy, connection, and pleasure.
We’ll explore your intimate needs, desires, and what brings you pleasure. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, or somewhere in between, you don’t need to know exactly what you want to work on before we begin. Just bring your curious self.
Together, we’ll work to uncover the version of intimacy that feels authentic to who you are now.
These 60-minute online sessions are for couples who wish to reconnect, rekindle pleasure, and rediscover their needs and desires during/after life transitions that changed their relationship to and understanding of intimacy.
We focus on improving communication, repairing after conflict, facing disappointment, and rebuilding both emotional and physical intimacy.
I work with couples who are willing to slow down, get curious about what lies beneath the surface, and have a desire to (re)turn to intimacy that feels authentic and fulfilling for both partners.
These online sessions are for anyone - single, partnered, or somewhere in between - who wants to slow down and trace how life's turning points have reshaped their relationship to pleasure and intimacy. Whether you're coming as an individual or with a partner, we get curious about what lies beneath the surface: your needs, desires, what feels good, what's shifted, and what you're longing to return to.
You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what you want to work on. I invite you to bring your curious self. Together, we’ll uncover your version of intimacy, explore desire and pleasure with curiosity instead of shame, and rediscover what authentic connection and intimacy feel like for you now.
P.S. I recognise that this work isn't always financially accessible. Limited sliding-scale spots are available, so please don't hesitate to reach out. University students are also welcome to enquire about reduced rates.
Kindly note: Payment is due at the time of booking via credit card, Klarna, or Apple Pay (PayPal will be available soon). Sessions are self-funded and not covered by health insurance. Cancellations or rescheduling require at least 24 hours' notice by email - cancellations within 24 hours are eligible for a full refund; after that, a 50% refund applies.
Here is my invitation for you:
slow down. pause.
feel. reflect.
reconnect. rekindle.
(Re)turn to Intimacy.
Frequently Asked Questions
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I offer sex, intimacy, and relationship coaching for individuals and couples who are navigating life transitions that have changed their relationship to intimacy, desire, connection, or pleasure.
My work is especially supportive during times of change, loss, rupture, or uncertainty, when intimacy no longer feels the way it once did or feels harder to access.
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My work is guided by my PACED approach: Presence, Attunement, Curiosity & Consent, Empathy, and De-shamifying.
This means I meet you where you are at, listen closely to both words and bodily signals, and follow what feels safe and workable rather than pushing toward solutions or outcomes. We explore patterns with curiosity and empathy, rather than judgment, and actively work to overcome the shame surrounding intimacy, desire, and pleasure.
My approach is sex-positive, trauma empowered, and grounded in the body. I don’t offer diagnoses, treatment plans, or advice-based solutions. Instead, we slow down, notice what is present, and explore new ways of relating to yourself and your partner(s).
I draw on my training in the Somatica method, my academic expertise, and many years of lived experience with navigating transitions, pleasure, and intimacy.
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I work with adults of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, and cultural backgrounds. Whether you’re single, partnered, monogamous, non-monogamous, neurotypical or neurodivergent, you’re welcome here if you’re curious about returning to intimacy, desire, and pleasure after life transitions.
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No. You do not need to be in a relationship to work with me.
Many people come to coaching to reconnect with themselves, their bodies, their desires, or their relationship to intimacy outside of a partnership. Others come while dating, partnered, or in non-monogamous structures.
Intimacy related work always begins with your relationship to yourself, whether or not you’re in a relationship.
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You can begin by scheduling a free 30-minute discovery call or by using the contact form on this website if you have questions. From there, we’ll explore what you’re looking for and whether working together feels like a good fit.
There is no pressure to commit right away. Starting coaching is a collaborative process, and we move at a pace that respects your capacity and willingness.
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Yes. Currently, I offer only online sessions, which means you can work with me from wherever you are as long as you have a stable internet connection and a supporting device.
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Coaching with me is not a quick fix. Change tends to unfold gradually, often in subtle but meaningful ways.
You can expect a space where you’re supported to slow down and become more aware of your body and emotional patterns. We’ll gently experiment with new ways of relating to yourself and your partner through somatic practices or tools.
People often notice shifts in how they communicate, set boundaries, experience desire, or allow themselves more pleasure with less shame and guilt.
The pace and direction of the work are shaped together between us. There is no single “right” outcome, only what feels more authentic and supportive for you over time.
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No. Coaching and therapy are different forms of support.
I am not a psychotherapist or medical doctor and do not provide diagnosis, clinical treatment, or crisis intervention.
Coaching with me focuses on present-day patterns, embodied awareness, and relational exploration rather than diagnosing or treating mental health conditions.
If at any point it becomes clear that therapy or additional support would be more appropriate, I will name that openly and support you in finding suitable resources.
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Payment is due at the time of booking via credit card, Klarna, or Apple Pay (PayPal will be available soon). Sessions are self-funded and not covered by health insurance. Cancellations or rescheduling require at least 24 hours' notice by email - cancellations within 24 hours are eligible for a full refund; after that, a 50% refund applies.